How To Deal With Continuous Disappointment
2020 is a bitch. I think we can all genuinely agree that this year is the fucking worst. Did we mess up somewhere and accidentally activate Mercury being in retrograde for an entire year? (Also, I have no idea what Mercury being in retrograde actually means, but it sounded right.)
I’ve been dying to write on here. I just never knew when the right time was. But here we are.
Disappointment has been the unofficial theme of the year. I’ve dealt with so much disappointment recently, I don’t even know how I am staying afloat.
I got dumped by someone I thought was my person.
Yesterday my kitten was taken away from me after fostering her for 2 weeks, adopting her and taking her in to get spayed. It was the location’s fault.
I’ve been let down by friends.
I’ve been horrified by people even considering arguing against the BLM movement.
If I see another Karen I’ll fucking explode.
So the question becomes, what the fuck do we do about all this disappointment?
Honestly, I don’t know if I have the answer. To me, the first thing that comes to mind is look at yourself. Evaluate the human you are. Are you doing anything that contributes to society? Can you look back at the last year and think “I have done work to become a better person.”
Because if you cant, then you need to start.
Go to therapy.
Read a book.
Get outside your comfort zone.
Fight for what you believe in.
Have compassion for your neighbors.
Take a minute to listen to someone. Don’t have your response already ready to go for when the person you’re speaking to shuts up. It’s not about you. Provide valuable substance to a conversation. I guess my point is this: To deal with continuous disappointment, you need to make sure you’re not disappointing others yourself. Because disappointment can become a continuous loop that becomes contagious. And you need to stop it while you can.
I guess my point is this: To deal with continuous disappointment, you need to make sure you’re not disappointing others yourself. Because disappointment can become a continuous loop that becomes contagious. And you need to stop it while you can.
Instead, be the reason someone still has faith in humanity. Be the reason someone laughs when they’re having a bad day. Be the reason that no matter what happened in the past, people can always come to you. Show compassion. Show vulnerability. Be the first to apologize in any wrongdoing. Because if it doesn’t start with you, where will it start?
Nothing changes if you don’t change.
And to finish off, I just wanted to say this:
I’m back, bitches. And the rest of 2020 can fuck off.
The Girl with a Heart on Her Middle Finger