We’re Halfway Through 2019. Here Are Three Things I’ve Learned.
The New Year’s spirit is something I live for. There’s nothing like a new year to get reflective on how life has been going for you.
With how involved my life has been with my goals, my hobbies, my relationship and my job, it’s been really tough getting a hold of it all. This lead me to look at 2019 in a new way. In June I had a mental breakdown. It was a perfectly timed quarter-life crisis that came right at 25 1/2 years old. Even my breakdowns come right on schedule.
After my little breakdown, I had to reevaluate what I had going on and what I want. Reflections can be stressful and hard to organize in a thoughtful way, so I decided to make it fun. Let’s pretend it’s Jan. 1st, 2020. Let’s get in the mindset of a new year to get in the right mindset for change.
Enough chit-chat, let’s get to what I learned in the first half of the 2019.
1. Focus on your FUTURE
This has been a big one for me. Hence why it’s number one. As I get older (ew), I know how important it is to save for the future and create the future I want. This means making more sacrifices now so that later can be better. I love going out, I love getting drinks, I love all those things. But I’m forcing myself now to ask myself if I really need to do somethings or if I could live without other things. Baby steps, right?
2. Toxic people be gone
I struggle with this one a lot, but it’s been a big priority. I’ve always sympathized with people and their struggles. I’ve always prided myself in not judging people for some of the things they’ve done. But I noticed this year the toll it’s taken on me, unnecessarily. It’s a big ongoing process for me. I don’t want to be an asshole, but my mental health is way more important than me supporting a shitty person and turning a blind eye on all that they are doing. This goes for everyone in my life, and I’m taking notes quietly on how people’s actions are affecting me. More on this to come.
3. You don’t have to always be around
I’ve always been shitty at responding to people’s messages. It’s just something I genuinely am trash at. But, this last year, I’ve accepted this fact way more. I’m having to be always “on” at work. Constantly responding to people, interacting with people and my responsibilities are only growing. So when I get home, I want to ignore everything and everyone. That’s what I’ve been doing. Do I feel like I need to get better at returning my friend’s calls and messages? Fuck ya. But I also have learned that if I just can’t mentally get to it, I won’t. This also goes for social media blackout days. As soon as I start feeling overwhelmed by my personal and work life, I implement a blackout day one day on the weekend. I also have social media timers for each day that only allows me to be on it for a certain amount of time daily. It’s the little things, ya know?
The Girl with a Heart on Her Middle Finger