Make Relationships Simple Again
My boyfriend is going to laugh at me for saying this, but RomComs are ruining people’s idea of romance. (God, I really hope he doesn’t read this post.)
All the romance movies display the same thing. People meet, there’s a conflict and then someone makes a grand gesture and they end up together. Shoutout to The Breakup for not being typical.
While it’s not a crime to watch these movies, I think it impacts our idea of what is expected in a relationship.
When you are in a new relationship or you just met someone, it’s natural to overthink things. But what most people don’t realize in the beginning is that grand gestures aren’t necessary. What matters in the relationship is reliability, consistency and respect.
That’s not to say I don’t love a good surprise of just-because flowers. But what really gets me going is a simple unexpected embrace, holding my hand, opening the door for me or just having patience when I’m stressed out.
Please note that I’m not saying relationships should be easy. In my last post, I actually stress the opposite. But there are things you can do to make your relationship a little simpler.
- Keep your expectations realistic: Like I said earlier, don’t go expecting your boyfriend or girlfriend to show up at your window serenading you after an argument. Instead, expect an apology, a healthy discussion and boundaries.
- Have your own hobbies: It’s so important to have your own hobbies outside of a relationship. It’s so easy to want to share every little part of your life with someone, but it’s important to have your own thing too. I’ve seen it so many times before when a friend made their partner the biggest priority in their life, only to be completely lost once they broke up. Having your own hobbies keeps life interesting, makes you miss each other a little more and keeps the conversations alive.
- Cheer your partner on: Life isn’t always rainbows and butterflies. It’s inevitable that you and your partner will have some tough times in life. Give your partner support during the ups and downs. At the end of the day, you guys are in a partnership. Show them the support you’d want to have if the roles were reversed.
- Make them feel special: People have different love languages. Get to know your partner’s love language and demonstrate your love for them effectively. Again, this doesn’t mean go buy them a car. You’ve heard it before, and I’ll say it again – it’s the little things that really matter.